Wishin’ and Hopin’

– Rhonda Fleming


Do you remember the hit song Wishin’ and Hopin’? It’s from the ‘60’s and was recorded first by Dionne Warwick and later by Dusty Springfield.


For those of you too young to have any clue what I’m talking about, it’s a song that explains what a girl needs to do and what she doesn’t need to do to get a guy to fall for her. (Gotta love the 60’s!)


I am NOT recommending anyone follow the advice given in the song. I’m just using it as an illustration.


The lyrics say that wishing and hoping, thinking and praying, planning and scheming are not going to get the job done.


That sounds a lot like manipulation to me. But I digress.


I just want to point out that the songwriters lumped wishing and hoping together in this song. (Image via Pixabay)



As if they’re the same thing.


Or close to the same thing.


And I agree with them.


And I don’t.


(Are you confused yet?)


You see, I think there are two different types of hope.


I believe the most popular type of hope is the kind of hope that’s talked about in this song. The wishing kind of hope.


You’ve heard it. You probably say it on occasion. I know I do.


“Well, I certainly hope (fill in the blank) happens!”


“Well, I sure hope (fill in the blank) doesn’t happen!”


“I am hoping (fill in the blank) is gonna come through!”


There is nothing substantial in these statements. There is no trust. There is no faith.


They’re just wishful statements. Or wishful thinking.


There’s nothing solid to base the expectation of a good outcome on. Just a lot of wishing for what we want to happen. Or not happen.


It’s kinda like throwing a feather off the top of a building and hoping it’s going to land on a particular spot.


Ain’t gonna happen!


But the other type of hope is a lot different.


This second type of hope is what I call anchoring hope.


Anchoring hope is solid. It’s stable. It has the ability to hold you steady during a storm.


It’s more like a ship dropping anchor in rough seas. The anchor is strong enough to hold the ship in place, keep it from drifting. The anchor . . . and the ship . . .  remain stable . . . even during a storm.


So, if you’re facing some rough seas in your life, I don’t recommend the ‘wishing’ kind of hope. It can’t give you any stability.


Instead, I strongly encourage you to look for some anchoring hope. Hope that can be depended on to hold you steady during your storm.


And this website is a great place to find it.


The authors and speakers who are promoted here are individuals who have weathered a storm or two in their life . . . and lived to tell about it.


And I’m not just saying they survived a storm. There are a lot of survivors who continue to play the role of victim.


But the authors and speakers on AnchoringHope.com have come out of their storms stronger. They’ve triumphed. They’ve learned the valuable lessons shared in their books and messages.


And they’re sharing them with you — not because they’re proud of everything they did or of everything that was done to them. And not because they’re perfect.


They’re sharing what they’ve learned so you’ll be better equipped to face your situation.


They’re sharing their anchoring hope with you.


Now you don’t have to be just wishin’ and hopin’ that the situation in your life turns out well.


Instead, you can face your storm with practical strategies and faith and trust and (anchoring) hope that you can make it through victorious.


And for those of you who remember the song Wishin’ and Hopin’, I know it will now be playing in your head all day long. You’re welcome.


This post was written by Rhonda Fleming.

Rhonda is the author of Treasure Seeker Bible Study Workbook and the Founder of Anchoring Hope.

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  1. Kathryn June 26, 2017 at 6:45 am - Reply

    Love this! Thanks for writing Rhonda.

  2. Michele Poncier June 26, 2017 at 8:37 am - Reply

    This is great! And I do remember that song! Thank you for pointing out the difference many so often forget. Hebrews 6:19 This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters within the veil…

  3. Mari June 26, 2017 at 8:53 am - Reply

    I just had this conversation with daughter last night. Love this! Yes, we need an ANCHORING hope.

    • RhondaFleming June 27, 2017 at 10:00 am - Reply

      Thanks, Mari!

  4. Cassandra June 26, 2017 at 9:45 am - Reply

    Yes Mam! I wholeheartedly agree. Anchoring hope is the only way to get through some of these crazy storms life can throw our way. Great article.

    • RhondaFleming June 27, 2017 at 10:00 am - Reply

      Thanks, Cassandra!

  5. Linda June 26, 2017 at 11:04 am - Reply

    Rhonda, I just love your writing and all that God says through you. Excellent explanation. Love you and love what you’re doing. ❤️😊

    • RhondaFleming June 27, 2017 at 9:59 am - Reply

      Thanks, Linda!

  6. Donna Hyder June 26, 2017 at 9:23 pm - Reply

    Love how you write…love your “spacing” too!
    Love how you broke the song down or out…good job!
    So thankful for our ” Anchori” in the storms!

    Just this week I woke with an old song and did a google search of the lyrics. I actually was shocked over one sentence. I could not help but think about how many people and times it has been sang, but not true at all.

    Look how far you have come and you have only just begun!

    • RhondaFleming June 27, 2017 at 9:59 am - Reply

      Thanks, Donna!

  7. Gaylen June 27, 2017 at 2:39 pm - Reply

    This is wonderful Rhonda!
    The kind of hope that stands strong in the Word received from the One who loves us best.

    • RhondaFleming June 27, 2017 at 2:46 pm - Reply

      Thanks, Gaylen!

  8. Deb Gerace June 29, 2017 at 2:02 pm - Reply

    Nicely and humorously put,
    Rhonda. Love your profle photo, too.

    • RhondaFleming June 29, 2017 at 2:38 pm - Reply

      Thanks, Deb!

  9. Jed Lindstrom June 29, 2017 at 3:07 pm - Reply

    good work

  10. Vicki July 3, 2017 at 11:34 am - Reply

    Hello Rhonda,

    I enjoyed your post so much! I do remember the song and will reflect on the different “hopes”! Your new website and blog will inspire so many through the written word. Congratulations on your new endeavor, friend.

    Bless you,

    • RhondaFleming July 3, 2017 at 12:46 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Vicki!

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